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Tuesday, May 21, 2013

All About The Process

I've recently been introduced 
to a little boy
who has started to change my life.

Not only does he show me how to love
but his family, his mother with her patience
and his siblings with their
persistance, they all teach me
to journey on.

The specific type of therapy that I'm
doing with him is called RDI,
(Relationship Development Intervention)
and it has taught me one
very important concept...

"It's not about the outcome,
It's about the journey."

Yes, we all want to end up happy.
We all want to be better, and do better,
we want nice houses and 
wonderful companions,
but the most important part
is how we change on our way.

 I've found that the most important part
of Becoming Better 
is just that
The Becoming.

President Hinckley said this, 

"None of us will become perfect in a day or a month or a year. 
We will not accomplish it in a lifetime, 
but we can begin now, 
starting with our more obvious weaknesses
 and gradually converting them to strengths 
as we go forward with our lives. 
This quest may be a long one;
 in fact, it will be lifelong. 
It may be fraught with many mistakes, 
with falling down and getting back up again. 
And it will take much effort. But we must not sell ourselves short. 
We must make a little extra effort. 
We would be wise to kneel before our God in supplication.
 He will help us.
 He will bless us.
 He will comfort and sustain us. 
He will help us to do more, and be more, than we can ever accomplish or be on our own."

-Standing for Something: Ten Neglected Virtues That Will Heal Our Hearts and Homes,

(Thank You Zach Oates)

After watching this video,
and reading President Hinckley's words,
after thinking a lot about
"the process"
I really know that this life can be as 
good as we let it.

When we focus on others,
when we meet each day with optimism.
When we sincerely rely
on the grace of the savior
as we strive to over come our own weakness.

When we listen to Christ, when we
believe in the atonement and our
ability to change
an amazing thing happens.

We change.

Thursday, May 2, 2013

Gary Indiana

Once Upon a Nightmare...
I was flying in a plane for the first time.

And on this plane there were many
"Plane People."
You know those people, the ones who 
tell you their whole life story?
Or try to convert you to their religion
or offer to buy you a drink?

Well I met one of these people.
He was sitting next to me
 in the back left corner
of the plane and his name was Gary.
Gary the diamond salesman from Florida.

I had just watched The Music Man
so I sang the "Gary Indiana" song to 
him until his name was forever imprinted in my brain.
(The lyrics are quite repetitive, so it didn't take very long)

But, Gary's name and occupation
weren't the only things I learned on that trip.
I also learned that people, no matter
how they act, or how they
talk, or who they've fallen in or out of love with,
or what they wear,
People ARE People.

And Gary understood this.
I know because as I sat on that plane
he treated me, not like a motion sick 19
year old, but like a person.

He was kind and he looked me in the eye
when he spoke to me.
He remembered my name
 and used it.
He offered to switch places so I could 
look out the window so I wouldn't
puke on him.

In essence he applied some
of the concepts in my favorite book,
 "Bonds That Make Us Free."

 The author C. Terry Warner
brilliantly explains how we should treat others.
He explains,

"By seeing others suspiciously, accusingly, or fearfully,
we become suspicious, accusing, or fearful ourselves. 
By no longer seeing them with care, delight, and generosity,
we ourselves cease to be caring, delighted, and generous.

The kind of people we are
 cannot be separated from how we interpret
the world around us.
'Adam is Adam's world,' 
wrote the philosopher Gottfirend Wilhelm Leibniz.
Who we are is how we are in relation to others."

And there we have it.
Gary was kind because he saw
the world in a kind way.
He was delightful because he saw the world
with delight.

I want to be more like Gary.